Are You Fundamentally Good or Evil?

This could be a really short blog post because, in my opinion, you are fundamentally …

Good!

The End!  Thanks for coming!

Ha!  I just couldn’t resist!

Okay … as usual, I do have a few points I want to make.

So, how do I know you’re fundamentally good? How can I prove it?

Yes, there are so many different schools of thought that stem from the poets, psychologists, philosophers, physicists, scientists, you name it.  But as they say ….

“Keep it Simple Stupid” … okay, well I don’t like the word stupid because it’s, well, stupid. So let’s rephrase that.

“Keep It Simple Silly”!

When I do work with my clients, I always ensure them that no matter how bad, broken or twisted they thing they are … they are divine, amazing beings.

How do I know that?  Because we all start that way!

We;re brought into the world innocent, unscathed, joyful beings full of light and love.  Case in point, when you look into a baby’s eyes, what do you see?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve looked into a lot of baby’s eyes and I’ve never seen evil, ate or rage piercing from their eyes.

Nope!

What I see, and I’m sure you do too, is joy, curiosity, happiness and even a bright innocent sparkle.

You know … Good!

Told you it was simple! 

So, if you are fundamentally good then why is it that we eventually get filled with so much other junk? You know … the yucky stuff that we pretend doesn’t exist like arrogance, manipulation, condemnation, judgement, rage, anger, sadness.

As a baby, you had high expectations.  You expected that everyone would love you unconditionally, that you’d be treated with respect, that you’d be treated with kindness and consideration.

You quickly learn your expectations were unreasonable!

You learn that life isn’t as pure, loving or fun as you had expected.  You begin to experience evil.

So what do I mean by “Evil”?

When I refer to “evil” I am not referring to the devil, hell or anything like that. I am referring to the unbearable life circumstances and experiences that were out of line with our true essence and completely unnecessary.

To castrate a young boy may be a necessity (in some cultures) but to do it a little bit at a time is out of line, completely unnecessary and well … evil!

As you experience life, you’re like a sponge and you take in everything around you – jotting down notes along the way. You eventually learn the different between “right” and “wrong” and in order to get your expectations met (to be loved, treated with respect and kindness) you learn to navigate the rough waters by disowning the “bad” or “wrong” parts of you and highlight the “good” and “right” parts of you.

In essence, you’ve been taught to show only the “good” and hide the “bad” and “ugly”.

The good, bad and the ugly … get it?!   Uh hem … okay, back to making my point.

The good girl or boy that you show to the world in order to get love and acceptance is really a mask. It’s a fabricated alternate persona that you developed to get your needs met.  That mask-self shows up as loving, kind, caring, charismatic, charming, generous, funny individual.

The mask-self is so convincing that you start to attach your identity to this part of yourself, becoming completely oblivious to the raw, organic shit that you’ve buried deep down.

But, you’re not perfect. So, at times, you slip and the “bad” and “ugly” show up at your door. You’ve just found evil lurking behind the curtains. It shocks you because you’re “not that way”.

But you are!  You are that and so much more!

If you have the patience and courage to look at that part of you, own it and figure out where it came from, then process through it, you’ll find your personal pot of gold.

You’ll find that innocent, pure, joyful part of you that you were born with. The part of you that remains unscathed. The part of you that is Divine. The part of you I call the Higher Self.

It’s ironic because the Higher Self isn’t very different than the mask-self that you’ve developed over time. However, while seemingly similar, there is a huge difference!

When you’re in alignment with your Higher Self, you embrace these qualities because it’s who you truly are. You’re genuinely loving, kind, compassionate and such … and you’re not that way because you want to manipulate someone or something in order to get your needs met.

When you’re in alignment with your Higher Self you’re not that way because it’s what’s expected of you or because you’re trying to avoid getting scathed, punished or reprimanded.

The key is to live in your unjaded truth!  I say unjaded because if I just say “live in your truth” this may not be the truth at all!  For instance, you may think that all men (or women) are jerks. Or that you’re not lovable. This is not the truth at all but it may be your truth.  When you’re able to decipher the difference is when your life will begin to change immensely!

Your friends and co-workers may think that you’re a happy, go-lucky, easy going person. However, you may be really unhappy inside.  But what’s the truth? Maybe, just maybe, your friends are right. Maybe they see the real you … the one that is genuinely happy. Not the one that pretends to be happy … or pretends to be loving, kind, caring, charismatic, charming, generous, and/or funny.

It’s so easy to accept this alternate persona, the mask-self, as the truth of who we really are. The key is to penetrate the mask and, ultimately, connect with your Higher Self. If you can’t do this yet, and you act happy – or good – all the time, perhaps the only one your fooling is yourself!

Hugs … because everybody could use one!